Christmas time - 'argh' or 'yipee'!?
Hi there , so how you feeling about Christmas being so close? Does it give you all the feels, or does it make you want to scream and hide in the corner? If it's the latter, you're not alone sista! Christmas can be a trying time for many of us - negotiating family politics, negotiating THE most irritating of crowds (why do people ALWAYS seem to get in your way when you're on a mission to find the perfect gift - ugh!!!), negotiating your expanding belt buckle (FYI, I ditch the jeans altogether and go for a flowy dress on Christmas day, just sayin'...), negotiating your diminishing bank balance, oh my, we could go on and on couldn't we?!
Even the most enthusiastic of Christmas lovers (and I place myself in that category) can feel overwhelmed at this time of year. Tell me I'm not alone in this!?!?! If you're feeling the same, the good news is that there are some things you can do about it to help you maintain your sanity in the silly season. Let me share with you what works for me (and these are research based thingys, so I'm giving you the good stuff...)
- If you're feeling like everything's getting a bit much, focus on what you do have control over, and what you CAN do in that moment (i.e don't focus on what you haven't done yet). Breathe deeply, take a quick account of what you HAVE already achieved - which will be more than you think - and then look at ONLY the next most important thing on your to-do list. Try to focus on one thing at a time and finishing that before moving onto the next thing (SIDE NOTE: The older I get, the more I am against trying to multi-task, but I'll save that soap box for another day <wink>)
- If you can, take a break at the height of your overwhelm. This may seem counter-intuitive, but it will actually make you more productive if you do. Take some time to do something nice for just you. That could be for 5 minutes, or it could be 5 hours, whatever you need is whatever you need (and remember EVERYONE, no matter how busy they are, can afford a 5-15 minute break and will be better off because of it).
- Take your thoughts captive by asking yourself these simple questions... will I still be stressing about this in a week? In a day? In an hour? Focus on the fact that whatever is big in your mind at the moment will not remain big in your mind forever (in fact, in a short amount of time you probably won't even remember what you were so stressed about in the first place!). This helps minimise the issue and put it into perspective.
- If you're finding yourself worrying/stressing/getting upset (etc.) you can also try asking yourself "is me feeling this way helping the situation, or is it just serving to make me feel worse? No, not helping (coz trust me, it isn't). Right, well what positive and proactive thing can I do to help instead?" (TRUTH BOMB: I can almost guarantee whatever your feeling right now is NOT going to help bring about the outcome you desire...)
So there's just a few little gems to help you. If you give one/all of them a go, drop me a line to let me know how you went and what it did to help you. That'd make my day!!
You got this.